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First, it’s easy for outsiders to judge other people and wonder why they aren’t doing something different to get a better outcome. Truth is, we’re not living their life. We don’t know the details of their circumstances. We really can’t know what’s going on with them and why they behave the way they do.
There’s a saying that explains when change actually comes about: “People will only change when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of doing something different.”
If you keep in mind that all human behavior is based on getting one’s basic needs met, then it makes sense why some people don’t “learn their lesson” when they seem to be repeatedly making the same mistakes.
Maybe their behavior is the only way they know how to meet their needs, and changing that behavior would be too scary or difficult to do…and may jeopardize their survival. Therefore, they choose to not change...for good reason.
They’re doing what they need to get by.
When a child figures out that throwing a temper tantrum in a store would score them candy because their parent will do anything to stop the tantrum, why would that child choose to behave any differently? Without the tantrum, there’d be no candy, and so the behavior continues.
See what I mean?
Remember that people behave the way they do for reasons that makes sense to them in their circumstances.
And a little compassion for our differences goes a long way.
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